Monika Patton

I know exactly what it feels like to be stuck in a marriage you no longer recognize.

In 2011, I had an identity crisis of epic proportions. I didn’t know who I was or what was important to me, and I made some really bad choices.

Instead of taking a step back to re-evaluate why I was so unhappy in my life and my marriage, I went off the deep end. I had two affairs. I allowed myself to get swept away by the second guy, buying into his twisted fairytales. I left my husband, moved out of our house and broke my kids’ hearts. And then my heart got broken in spectacular fashion.

When 2012 dawned, I was single, alone and gutted. Three months later, I went on my own version of an Eat-Pray-Love vacation to Hawaii.

Suddenly, I knew what I needed to do –fix myself and reconcile with my husband. It was the hardest thing I’ve ever done.

I had to come to terms with who I had become and work hard to become the person I wanted to be. Individual and couples therapy were integral to this healing.

Individual and couple therapy were integral to this healing. Without the intense self-awareness work I did, I wouldn’t be where I am today.

I can’t help but think: If I had a place to talk openly and honestly with other women who were also stuck in unhappy marriages, could I have avoided the pain and heartache? Could I have spared my family from the most wretched months of our lives?

The Shelter picks up where therapy and your best friend (who is busy managing her own life) leave off. Welcome – I am so glad you’re here.

Please know that no matter how hard it is today, there is a light at the end of the tunnel. My wish for you is to find the right tunnel. With our community’s support, I hope you do.