Monika Patton

During a span of a few months in 2011, I completely destroyed everything that was important to me. Just as my small business was taking of, I had an identity crisis. If you don’t know who you are or what’s important, it’s easy to make bad choices. I made some whoppers.

I had two affairs. I allowed myself to get swept away by the second guy, buying into his twisted, fucked up fairytales. I left my husband, moved out of our house and broke my kids’ hearts. And then my heart got broken in spectacular fashion. When 2012 dawned, I was single, alone and gutted. Three months later, I went on my own version of an Eat-Pray-Love vacation to Hawaii.

Suddenly, I knew what I needed to do –fix myself and reconcile with my husband. It was the hardest thing I’ve ever done.

I had to come to terms with who I had become and work hard to become the person I wanted to be. Individual and couples therapy were integral to this healing. One thing was missing: a place to talk with other people who could completely empathize with me.

Sure, you can talk to your best friend, but they can only provide so much support. The Shelter picks up where individual therapy and friends leave off.

I like to describe The Shelter as group therapy, but the advice on this site cannot be considered professional medical or psychological advice. I am simply building the support community I wish I had access to in 2011 and 2012.

Please know that no matter how hard it is today, there is a light at the end of the tunnel. My wish for you is to find the right tunnel. With our community’s support, I hope you do.

Welcome – I am so glad you’re here.